Missed Ya'll!

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oldskool69

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Guys,

Just want to let you know that I'll be back in the swing of things soon. Why Have I fell off the map...

At number one:

My Mom passed away August 1 of this year due to pancreatic cancer. She died in my arms. She had been having back problems and her and my Dad had just come from Cozumel on July 6, his birthday. I recommended that she see and orthopedic specialist and surgeon given the US governments rapid reaction times for veterans. (My mom served 20 years.) Upon MRI and X-rays, they discovered spots on her liver and lungs. She had had no symptoms otherwise. After further investigation, she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She could have lived six months or six years as pancreatic cancer, like all others, may move swift or not. This time is was swift. I started going back and forth to Augusta, only staying at home long enough to deal with work, etc. My Dad does not have the strength and his vision is going, to deal with this. As she deteriorated quickly, we set up hospice to assist my Dad when we could not be there. After we noticed her condition rapidly spiraling I stayed in Augusta (GA). My wife and kids followed shortly afterwards as we knew the end was near. I contacted my sisters (one lives in Augusta) and informed other family members. My Dad was a train wreck and I knew it was on me to maintain order. God is so great as he made sure I would stand. All credit goes to my Father in Heaven, My Savior Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit.

On August 1, my wife, bad back, knees and all, was helping Mom get to her chair in the den. (She had told my Dad "Get me out of this damn bed!", even though she could barely speak legibly.) Right up to the last second she was her feisty self, no quit in her. My wife noted that she heard Mom say, "Daddy, hold on, I'm coming..." She asked for chocolate ice cream and my Dad fed it to her. A few moments later I walked into the room and she said she needed to go to the bathroom. She asked me to help her up, I said you have to help me Mom and I wrapped her arms around me. With whatever strength she had, she tightened up her hug and said "I love you Freddie J...", and I told her that I loved her too. As we began our dance of sorts, because she couldn't really walk, she looked over to my wife, then to me, piercing my very soul. A sudden rush of heat came over me like I was in an oven or painfully hot place...and she looked up and said "I love you." then "I'm back." She fell limp in my arms. I picked her up and laid her on the floor. My Dad cried out for my to try anything as I had already gone into auto mode with CPR though my heart knew. After a few tries Mom let out one last cough, blood spattering onto my face, and I had to look at my Dad, and tell him "She's gone home..."

From there it was a matter of handling affairs for Dad and notifying others. God truly sent an angel to me in my wife. When it was all said and done, the funeral was beautiful. Family came together with no static, and everyone knew and listened to what I had to say as far as Dad's wishes were. From then forward I have been looking out for him as best I can, knowing that I will have to do this one more time.

At number two:

I have really been struggling as of late with my job. I like the company and people fine, but I don't like what or better yet, how I have to do it. That problem will shake itself out though I know. It's been a needle in my side for awhile plus the fact that I earn way less than I did with my old firm.

At number three:

It's football season. So what does that mean in the grand scheme of things? Well...I am the in-stadium home announcer for the Freshmen and JV squads on Mondays and Tuesdays, the Middle School squads on Thursdays (some Wednesdays), the Youth games on Saturdays, and am the sound engineer, who will start the announcing this Thursday as the guy who had it for the last thirteen years is retiring. I have doing the others for a few years already and now have the Varsity squad home games. Plus my son is on the Freshmen squad. all games are in the evenings of course which means little time for me to do much else. Thank goodness it's just for football season. And all this is volunteer work promised out years ago.

And finally four:

As you guys may (or may not) know, I had my C6/C7 discs fused in my neck June 2. I have had little to no time to rest and heal so it's been a bit of a downer with some of the pain and soreness still there. I'm not doing anything stupid like trying to deadlift hundreds of pounds or stand on my head so I'll be all right. Recovery is just slower.

So, all that being said I do miss you all! And life will self correct as it always does. Love ya'll and will be back soon!

AND BEHAVE!!!! I've seen some of the posts... :nonono:
 

skippy1969

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I'm glad to hear from you Freddie. I'm so sorry to hear about all the bad things that have happened in your life lately though. Just know you have lots of people who care about you.


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Reli

Boomus Fidelis
RIP to your mother - Very sorry to hear. My dad passed away from the same thing. I'm glad you were there with her and that your family had closure.
 

Lasonic TRC-920

Moderator
Hi Freddy, was just thinking of you the other day. My parents are getting up there and I think about it more and more how I will have to walk down this road. No one looks forward to it. But standing up and being a man is what every parent would want from their son. I'm sure your mother was very proud of you!
 

-GZ-

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Damn Freddie. That's a rough couple months. Sorry about your mom. Glad things went as well as they did considering the circumstances.
 

T-STER

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Don't know you as I am a newcomer but hearing about your Mum was touching and very sad and for what its worth my deepest condolances.
 

ford93

Member (SA)
First my deepest condolences to you and your family Freddie. Losing a parent especially when it is your mother is not easy, this is the person that took care of you as you were growing up. I agree with Chris I too hate to think that one day I'll be on that road too as my mom has dementia. It really hurts to see her that way.

I know the pain that you are going through with family, health & work. I been through cancer twice in my life, had some job issues and now with my mom situation it's enough to make you go crazy.

But life goes on and we must make the best of it while we're still here. For me it if I'm ever on that road it's gonna take awhile for me to adjust.

I wish I could be that 19 year old kneeling down with the M-90 again.
 

BoomboxLover48

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[SIZE=medium]Dear Freddie,[/SIZE]

[SIZE=medium]So sorry to hear about your mom! God bless her soul![/SIZE]

[SIZE=medium]I lost my mom way back in 1995 and dad in 1987. She had Alzheimer’s![/SIZE]
[SIZE=medium]My mom always encouraged me with my hobbies and was my best friend. She never yelled at me or punished me. I miss her all the time. When I am alone in my car driving to work I think about her and remember all the love she showed to me. Actually parents never die but they live in you...a[/SIZE][SIZE=medium]nd the generations to follow...[/SIZE]

[SIZE=medium]Welcome back![/SIZE]

[SIZE=medium]Cheer up! Life goes on....Healing is a slow process... it takes time![/SIZE]

[SIZE=medium]Let us thank her for giving us a brother with the same hobby we all share .... :-D [/SIZE]
 

SLO

Member (SA)
I know we do not know eachother on a first name basis but I want to send my deepest condolences. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother, I hope that things get better for you, keep your head up my brother.
 
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