chris - this MIGHT be helpful for your 'security' in this tranny ::
i am often the 'buyer' on this kinda of 3-way deal -
where - i want the ebay seller to ship it to another friend --
that way - its saves the $$$ double freight charge-
and the risks of 2 shipments
on these occasions - the sellers have asked for a separate
e-mail confirming that...
this is my exact request--
and further - that i pledge to NOT file
a 'non-receipt' claim against the seller-
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on ONE occasion -
the seller just said NO !!!
as they would only stick by the strict ebay/paypal shipping rules..
but - usually - it works out well for all involved
so-----------
just ask for that email confirmation -and do it !!!
and for your extra protection -
send it to new york with tracking and with a required delivery signature