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#1 MyOhMy

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 06:14 AM

I've not spent much time on this forum recently, mainly due to ill health but my more recent absence is due to the death of my younger brother.

 

Lee was 64yrs when he died alone and the manner of his death was very unpleasant & upsetting as was the period leading up to his his death.  He was one of those "could be something of a pain in the ass brothers on occasion but was always lovable despite 'whatever' "  I can't elaborate at the moment but the police are involved and an autopsy is due to be carried out.

 

He was a lovable & thoughtful kinda guy and I remember him being just as nice even when he was far too young to start school, it's just such a horrible feeling when you've missed the chance to say a few words of comfort while the opportunity was there - even to say goodbye would have meant something.

 

I'll never be short of reminders of him as in the 1980's he'd planted trees and shrubs extensively in the grounds of the local hospital, they're all still there in their maturity and I'm frequently pointing the fruits of his labour out to all and sundry upon every one of my visits - always with great pride.

 

R.I.P. Dear Brother.



#2 Styleking

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 08:05 AM

Deepest sympathy to you Christine.



#3 Fatdog

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 08:34 AM

Oh, Christine.  I am so sorry.  : :



#4 MyOhMy

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 10:57 AM

Thanks, Guys.  The situation is quite surreal at the moment, 'raw' is fair description of how it all feels so far.



#5 BoomboxLover48

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 11:30 AM

Sorry for your loss Christine! Our heartfelt condolences!



#6 Northerner

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 11:55 AM

I’m really sorry Christine

#7 blu_fuz

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 12:20 PM

Sorry to hear Christine.

#8 Alpha Mike

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 12:30 PM

My deepest condolences. Be strong. Igor

#9 Transistorized

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 03:01 PM

Sorry to hear of this news Christine. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

#10 MyOhMy

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Posted 04 June 2019 - 03:50 PM

Thank you, everyone.  It's not easy finding the right things to say in such circumstances but your wishes and thoughts are very much appreciated.

 

Thanks, Guys.



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Posted 04 June 2019 - 04:52 PM

So sorry to hear and sending posiitivity your way in the face of not knowing how else to help :(



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Posted 04 June 2019 - 09:14 PM

My sincerest condolences. It is never easy losing someone close let alone not having been there. I am sure he is looking down wanting you to remember the good things in life and to carry on. We are all on this journey on different courses all leading to the same road at the end.



#13 trippy1313

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 01:49 AM

I'm sorry for your loss, I've never been good at dealing with losses, and hardly strong enough to talk about them. I hope you and any family/friends are doing as well as possible. You can always say goodbye anytime. He'll know.

#14 jimmyjimmy19702010

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 02:43 AM

Sorry for your loss Christine. Our thoughts are with you.

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#15 metalhandbag

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 04:44 AM

So sorry to hear this Christine my thoughts are with you .



#16 JVC Floyd

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 06:36 AM

That sucks !.
I don't care what anybody says , there's no dignity in death , not too much dignity in life either.

#17 jaetee

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 08:47 AM

Sorry for your loss, best of luck getting through the difficult times... 



#18 im_alan_partridge

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 12:18 PM

My thoughts are with you and your family.

 

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#19 MyOhMy

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 01:56 PM

All your kind words, thoughts and gestures are most welcome, chaps.  I know this may be something of a difficult or sensitive matter to read or or respond to so worry not, sparing a thought is more than enough.  



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Posted 05 June 2019 - 01:59 PM

I am deeply sorry MOM. My sincere condolences. People stay alive forever in our memories. 



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Posted 05 June 2019 - 02:57 PM

Deepest condolences to you and your family. I'm so sorry to hear this

#22 JVC Floyd

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 04:02 PM

There are days when I wanted to power bomb both my brothers through the fooking floor so deep when they land they be looking up at the devil lol, but I would miss them if they were gone.

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Posted 05 June 2019 - 10:13 PM

My condolences Christine.

 

Those trees and scrubs he planted at the Hospital such a nice reminder of your brother.

 

 

 

R.I.P.



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Posted 05 June 2019 - 10:38 PM

Terrible news Christine. I hope these sentiments help soothe the loss your feeling. Take care....



#25 MyOhMy

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Posted 06 June 2019 - 12:24 AM

Terrible news Christine. I hope these sentiments help soothe the loss your feeling. Take care....

 

Every comment has been a welcome thought, even the music vid and JVC Floyd prompting me to think that I should have given Lee a 'wake up, bruv' kinda (respectful) slap, a telling off or something............anything, more than I did.  I'm continuing with my 'what if's' , 'maybe if I'd done...' and so on but nothing changes except the memories have become so much more important than I'd ever realised in the past.  Searching my mind for all those long forgotten memories stirs up all manner of emotions but every one of them now has a value like I'd never have imagined.

 

It wasn't too long ago that I thought he was going to curl his toes up so I made a memorial type of video about him with a slide show of pics of his life and the sound track I used was He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother by The Hollies:

 

https://hooktube.com...h?v=geDIAkycLYI



#26 JVC Floyd

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Posted 06 June 2019 - 04:02 PM

I can understand some people distance themselves from their loved ones so they can sink into a hole in peace lol. Its not fair but at the same time at least you know they cared in some way.

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Posted 07 June 2019 - 05:14 AM

So sorry to hear of your tragic loss MOM, thoughts out to you and your family



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Posted 08 June 2019 - 10:53 AM

Hope you are bearing up ok Christine? Was difficult know what to say on the phone! Am glad we had a good talk - this year hasn't been kind to some of us & keeping going is tough at times.......
We will catch up again soon sweet x

#29 MyOhMy

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Posted 08 June 2019 - 02:44 PM

Thanks again for the kind words and thoughts.  There's a bit of a lull in arrangements at the moment so planning anything is intermittent at best as so many agencies need to be involved and all in a particular sequence.  It may turn out to be a little complicated but we'll get there.

 

Another brother (Mr Nice Guy) was relating to me a conversation he'd had with my sister regarding Lee's funeral arrangements and the 'tidying of affairs' that went something along the lines of: "We need to get this sorted out so we've got it right - we don't want to go through all this again with Christine......". So, there you have it: It's either a foregone conclusion that I'm next or I got the short straw! 

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Posted 08 June 2019 - 05:17 PM

Sorry Christine. Have a draft, put on something he liked (music) and celebrate him!